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Transform Your Neighborhood with Small Community Actions

Have you ever driven through a beautiful neighborhood and thought, Wow… look at these flowers, these painted porches, these little pockets of calm everywhere? It feels effortless, almost like the neighborhood just became that way.

But here’s the truth we don’t always say out loud: those places look like that because the residents invest in them. They organize clean‑ups. They build Little Free Libraries. They add onto their homes. They show up for their community. They shape the environment they want to live in.

Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that only big gestures matter. We forget the heart of that famous John F. Kennedy line: ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country. Small actions still matter—and they matter more than we think.

Life Is Busy, and That’s Real

When people say they’re too busy to get involved, I agree. Life will have you scrambling. One minute your child is falling behind in school, the next you need a new roof, and you still haven’t made that doctor’s appointment. Meanwhile, you look around and think, The city needs to fix this. This is falling apart. We don’t have enough resources.

It’s overwhelming. And it’s human.

But small changes—tiny, manageable ones—can shift the entire way we live.

Small Things Shape Big Outcomes

I’ve said it here many times: small things matter. They shape our daily lives more than we realize. We love to quote “Be the change you want to see,” but then we wait for someone else to make the change happen.

Some changes require policy. But many can start right where we are.

Even in your home or apartment—temporary or not—you want it to feel good. You want it to be comfortable. And when you eventually level up, you want the next person to inherit something cared for. That mindset alone is powerful.

Using What You Have to Build What You Want

I went to art school, and only now am I really thinking about how to use that training to improve my life and my community. You can do the same with whatever gifts you have.

One thing I rarely hear discussed is how to keep your property values high after you buy a home. Yes, there are injustices that affect communities—things I’ll talk about another time—but residents still have power.

About Those Smoke Shops…

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I’m not a fan of having a bunch of smoke shops in my neighborhood. Through research, I learned that if the rent is cheap enough, they can move in easily. But if they don’t have customers, they can’t stay.

And honestly, I don’t want our kids growing up thinking vaping is harmless. I tell my own children all the time: you are blessed, but your blessings can literally and figuratively go up in smoke if you start adult habits too early.

At the same time, I try to remember that everyone has a job to do. Everyone is trying to exist. So I’ve also wondered: could these shops be made less of an eyesore? Could they be more elegant, more integrated into the neighborhood? Where I live, some of them are decent. They could be decent everywhere.

Temptation is personal. But community standards are collective.

Getting Involved Doesn’t Have to Be Complicated

City council meetings are online now. Your city website lists committees you can join. You don’t have to show up in person, you can listen in on Zoom while you drink your coffee.

Is it exciting? Not always. But here’s something I learned working in finance: the people who can endure the boring parts often end up with the biggest influence.

If your attention span is short, think of it as a creative challenge. Your voice matters. Reasoned, constructive conversation matters. And yes, some people will try to shut you down. Don’t let that discourage you. Those folks usually get moved aside eventually.

Action is the shortest path to victory.

Start With Your Block

Beautification doesn’t require a grand plan. You can do a lot with one neighbor. One idea. One shared effort. This is a no-brainer when it comes to helping people become useful right where they are. It is the very definition of lifting as we climb as stated by Mary Church Terell.

But if you’re doing major building, please pull a permit. And if the process moves too slowly, well… social media has a way of speeding things up.

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Watching Movies.

Write about a few of your favorite family traditions.

We love to snuggle and watch movies. I don’t know if it is a tradition but it’s fun to do. We love to watch movies together. We love it so much that we purchased a popcorn machine and bought a projector.

It’s showtime every weekend.

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Saint Josephine Bakhita: Patron Saint of Those Who Have Been Sex Trafficked

Saint Josephine Bakhita stands as a quiet but powerful witness to survival, dignity, and hope. She is the patron saint of people who have been trafficked, abused, and exploited—especially those subjected to slavery and sexual violence. Her life reminds us that sanctity can rise even from the deepest suffering, and that no human being is ever beyond redemption or worth.

From Enslavement to Freedom

Josephine Bakhita was born around 1869 in Darfur, Sudan. As a young child, she was kidnapped by slave traders, torn from her family, and sold multiple times. During her captivity, Bakhita endured brutal physical abuse, psychological trauma, and repeated violations of her body and dignity—experiences that closely mirror what many survivors of sex trafficking face today.

Her captors gave her the name Bakhita, meaning “the fortunate one,” a cruel irony given the horrors she endured. Over time, she was forced to forget her birth name and even her native language, a devastating loss of identity that is common among trafficked victims.

St. Josephine Bakhita for kids

Encountering God in the Midst of Trauma

Eventually, Bakhita was brought to Italy, where slavery was no longer legal. For the first time, she encountered kindness without violence and authority without abuse. It was there that she learned about Christianity and came to understand God not as another master, but as a loving presence who had been with her even in her suffering.

Bakhita later said that if she met her captors again, she would kneel and kiss their hands—not because what they did was acceptable, but because, through her suffering, she came to know God. This radical forgiveness does not erase injustice; rather, it reveals a profound spiritual freedom that no chains could destroy.

Why She Is the Patron Saint of Trafficking Survivors

Saint Josephine Bakhita is the patron saint of victims of human trafficking because she lived their reality. Her sainthood does not romanticize suffering; it validates it. She represents:

Survivors who have been silenced

Bodies treated as commodities

Lives fractured by exploitation

The long, painful journey toward healing

Her life tells survivors: You are not defined by what was done to you. Your dignity is intact. Your story is not over.

A Saint for Our Time

Human trafficking is not a problem of the past—it is a global crisis happening in plain sight. Bakhita’s story urges us not to look away. She challenges us to listen to survivors, to support organizations that protect the vulnerable, and to confront systems that allow exploitation to thrive.

Her holiness was not forged in comfort, but in endurance, compassion, and love. In a world that often reduces trafficked persons to statistics, Saint Bakhita restores the human face.

A Prayerful Call to Action

Honoring Saint Josephine Bakhita means more than remembering her story. It means committing ourselves to justice, mercy, and solidarity with those who are still trapped in cycles of exploitation. Whether through advocacy, education, prayer, or direct service, each of us can play a role in ending trafficking and supporting survivors.

Saint Josephine Bakhita, patron saint of those who have been trafficked, pray for us—and especially for all who are still waiting to be free.

Room 21 A Film on Human Trafficking
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Affordable or (Free) Field Trips and Travel Grants for Maryland Families

By Chiara Luz

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As a mom, enriching your child’s education with hands-on experiences doesn’t have to break the bank. If you’re looking for free or grant-supported field trips in Maryland and beyond, there are great options and tools to help you plan exciting learning experiences with little to no cost. 

Explore FieldTripDirectory.com’s Maryland listings. This searchable directory lets you browse field trip ideas by category—everything from science and nature to history, arts, and recreation—so you can find experiences that match your child’s interests and curriculum goals.  

Many destinations also offer grant-funded or free admission for school and homeschool groups. For example, The Maryland Zoo in Baltimore provides grant-funded free admission for Maryland students (public, Head Start, Judy Centers, and eligible homeschool groups) on field trips during the school year. They even offer free virtual field trips if visiting in person isn’t possible.  

Nature lovers can look into bus voucher programs like the one offered by Friends of Black Hill Nature Programs, which helps Title I schools cover transportation costs so students can explore the outdoors.  

Another great opportunity is the State-Aided Institutions Field Trip Grant through the Maryland State Department of Education—this can help schools secure funds to cover transportation to approved educational sites, making field trips more affordable for entire classes.  

Even if a destination doesn’t have free admission, many venues offer group discounts or grant opportunities you can apply for ahead of time. 

By planning early and using resources like FieldTripDirectory.com, moms can unlock affordable, fun, and educational field trip options that spark curiosity and create lasting memories—without the stress of high costs. 

Field Trip Destinations & Free Admission Programs 

🔗 FieldTripDirectory — Maryland Field Trip Ideas 
https://fieldtripdirectory.com/category/destinations/maryland/ 

🔗 Maryland Zoo Field Trips (Grant-Funded Free Field Trips) — Information on free admission for school and homeschool groups through their field trip program.  
https://www.marylandzoo.org/learn/field-trips/ 

🔗 Maryland Zoo Homeschool Field Trip Request — Submit your group’s reservation for grant-funded free field trip dates.  
https://www.marylandzoo.org/learn/field-trips/homeschool-field-trip-request/ 

🔗 Maryland Zoo Virtual Field Trips (Free) — Live, grant-supported online experiences for Maryland schools.  
https://www.marylandzoo.org/learn/virtual-field-trips/ 

🔗 B&O Railroad Museum Field Trips — Free or reduced pricing for Maryland homeschool and school groups (while funding lasts).  
https://www.borail.org/explore-learn/for-teachers-students/field-trips/ 

Grant & Funding Resources 

🔗 Maryland State-Aided Institutions (SAI) Field Trip Grant — Grants to cover transportation costs for eligible school field trips.  
https://www.marylandpublicschools.org/about/Pages/OFPOS/GAC/SAI-Field-Trip/index.aspx 

🔗 Field Trip Grant to Museums of Cultural Import — Funding for visits to select cultural museums (e.g., Reginald F. Lewis Museum).  
https://www.marylandpublicschools.org/about/Pages/OFPOS/GAC/Field-Trip/index.aspx 

Other Helpful Maryland Programs 

🔗 Salisbury Zoo Free Field Trips — Completely free admission for groups (registration required).  
https://salisburyzoo.org/education/field-trips/ 

🔗 Bus Voucher Program — Friends of Black Hill Nature Programs — Helps Title I schools cover bus transportation costs.  
https://www.friendsofblackhillnature.org/bus-voucher-program

Travel Grants and Travel Abroad Scholarships

A cultured society is a beautiful one. If I had a Girl Scout troop, outside of glamping, and spa days we would absolutely embark on these cultural activities.

Let me know which one if any you participate in. And a very wise and prosperous man once told me, “it’s ok to save your money some time.” Don’t feel pressure to handle all of it. These things are for us all and we are fortunate to have these resources to enjoy. You can give back with donations, fundraising, volunteering, and posting on your social media.

Enjoy! Please share.

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Faith, Feminine Strength, and Financial Independence

“Things happen in life. They happen to planners. To non-planners. They happen to the so-called good and righteous among us. They happen to the not-so good ones too. If you live long enough, something is going to happen to you. Your reputation may be on trial, your finances at stake, and your soul in a constant state of unrest. But, if you believe and continue forward—a rainbow exists on the other side.”–La Luz

Last year I went through a difficult season that I barely had the space to face. I faced it, yes — but imagine praying for visibility, receiving it, and then feeling the weight of how much it changes everything. I’ve always been private about my relationships, so when someone emailed me saying, “Remember to protect your why or someone might take it,” it struck me deeply. That message arrived right as my marriage was ending. It’s ironic how we met and married at lightning speed, yet the “conscious uncoupling” has been a slow drip.

It’s difficult to stay sad when you’ve endured being unprotected for far too long. It’s difficult to remain bitter when violation becomes the very fire that forges your strength. Some lessons don’t come gently—but they do come with purpose. And if there’s a silver lining, it’s this: the experience sharpened me. It taught me how to parent forward, wiser and stronger, with resolve.

I bring this forward because it sparked one of the most important realizations of my life: as mothers, it is essential that we remain actively present in our children’s lives and intentional about sustaining our income. There is no one-size-fits-all path. Every woman’s circumstances are different. Some may need to outsource more, some less. I could have hired help—and maybe I will someday—but I value being hands-on whenever I can.

I love to work. And after immersing myself in lessons from thinkers like Tony Robbins, I began to see a sweet spot: a life where purpose, presence, and provision coexist.

I’m speaking especially to the woman who is traditional, who grew up in the church, who was taught modesty and discretion—and who sometimes feels embarrassed by conversations around money or power. Life still happens to modest women. Growth still happens to spiritual women. Who we were ten years ago is not always who we are becoming, and that evolution is sacred.

The Divine Feminine woman is designed to grow, to expand, to live in abundance. Her ideal partner is one who complements that growth. And if you have been obedient, prayerful, chaste—yet things didn’t unfold as you hoped—trust that it is still part of God’s design. But faith does not exclude wisdom. Within God’s design, it is prudent to be financially literate, fiscally conservative, and prepared.

I had to learn that “having a stash” means more than a few hundred dollars set aside. True security is built. The most beautiful woman, the most devoted partner, can also learn how to open a laptop and create something lasting. While we invest in our appearance and the things that fade with trends, we must also invest in understanding the system we live in. If you plan to live in America, learn American capitalism because it can quite literally save your life.

When your children want haircuts, stylish clothes, cultural experiences, or a magical trip to Disney World, it takes vision and planning. And you can do it.

I had a wonderful upbringing—perhaps too comfortable. Financial literacy wasn’t part of my education. But today, knowledge is everywhere, and as I move toward an AI-inclusive lifestyle, I intend to share what I learn along the way.

I want your children to have a solid, beautiful life. I want you to be present for it, not constantly away from home trying to make it happen.

Finding Hope in Faith and Tradition

One day a video crossed my feed — a Catholic priest teaching on divorce — and it was something every traditional woman should see. It reminded me that righteousness still has a future, and that hope is not lost.

Letting Go of Old Strongholds

The truth is, I wasn’t just living under the stronghold of a person — I was living under the stronghold of an idea that may never have been real. In life you have to pick a side for yourself. If it’s a good side, others will follow.

A Lesson From My Daughter

A little boy once told my daughter that he would marry her when they grew up. She carried those words close to her heart, feeling seen, beautiful, and chosen. I told her that if she truly meets her person that early in life, it would be a rare and precious gift—because most people don’t find their person so young, if at all.

She often talks about growing up and becoming a mother one day. She also loves science, building, and fashion—all beautiful interests that deserve encouragement. My role is simply to guide her: to nurture her heart, honor her curiosity, and quietly teach her to set her investments aside while becoming the most loving, capable woman she can be.

I remember a time when my parents faced a financial challenge. My mother produced the money to fix it—an amount so substantial it left me stunned. I remember thinking, I thought you said you didn’t have any money. But my mother, like my grandmothers before her, was wise. They were humble, simple women who worked tirelessly, lived modestly, and bought things in cash. They carried strength quietly. These are the lessons I want passed from mother to daughter, and to our sons as well.

Why Financial Responsibility Matters for Women and Single Mothers

The women who approach me at events, in public, after I speak, are often young and beautiful, yet rarely encouraged to develop their minds. Many were raised to believe their purpose begins and ends with a man. What they really need to learn is how to cultivate their relationship with God in the purest and most intimate way possible. I wish the advice was different, but I was married for a very long time, this is what I know. You never know what you will be hit with in your union. For example, an illness, death, or having to car for a family member unexpectedly. Money can buy back some of the time you lose and that is the most valuable thing. Time is priceless and finite.

For women — especially single mothers — fiscal responsibility is not just practical. It is protective. It is dignity. It is safety. It is the foundation that keeps you from being trapped in situations that diminish you. That is why I am all over this Genius Act.

I am moving into a digital space because it allows me to show up for my babies and pushes me closer to my dreams and goals. I believe that decentralized finance can be a great equalizer for many of us. I have heard the case for community banks and lending, and my thought is that it is good to have choices. Choices are always good because not everyone can handle the responsibility of having great risk, while others thrive in it. I think having choice and structure are good options. Whatever allows you to thrive.

When you understand money, you understand choice. You understand boundaries. You understand power.

Life Begins Again

Today, I feel like my life is just beginning. I have not only my voice but the courage to use it. It has nothing to do with money, because when people adore you, they adore you with or without it. They want to build with you and bond with you because of YOU. I have seen people come up together. I have seen power couples get it and lose it together. I think those couples are bonded by something stronger than a paycheck. It has to be a divine union, and life has to have a divine purpose in order to reap the benefits that living a faith filled life brings. I am speaking of one that flows, is understanding, abundant, and is rooted in peace. Please check out the video I attached at the top. It will give you some solace on your new beginning. Also, I just feel a tiny feeling that these next few years are going to be epic. But I had to fill in some gaps on why the conversation shifted so that I could get into the storytelling. And I hope the stories are good.

Lastly, sometimes we have a stop off or layover to our greatest story in life. Live in the moment because it tends to change.

Stay in the light. Peace Be With You.

Tax Season is here and there are many good things are occurring with your refund. Time to gather your documents and file early.

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Why You Can’t Grow Weary Now

In a world where the courage to do what’s right is often met with silence, misunderstanding, or indifference, the true challenge isn’t just starting well it’s staying faithful when the applause never comes.
In my latest piece, “Why You Can’t Grow Weary Now,” I explore why perseverance in goodness matters, how quiet acts of courage shape change, and why staying committed, even in the face of resistance, is one of the most radical forms of leadership today.
Read on to discover how steadfastness, faith, and purpose can transform the way you lead and serve.

Read more on Medium.

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Why I No Longer Have Food Waste

Food Waste Graphic Courtesy of the Author via Generative AI

I no longer have food waste.

We rarely waste food in the house. I remember sitting in my house after coming from a meeting with the Sustainability Committee in my city where we were trying to solve some food waste issues. I was thinking, how in the world could scarcity and excess exist in the same space? It seemed off to me. I have to say there is never a moment in my life that I had no food. Zero food.

There may have been a time in my adult life where I thought, oh my goodness I may run out of food–let me start to fast so it’ll be less painful! But the miracle of life is that it never got that way. Thankfully. To give you an example of what I mean, I would have rice and mixed vegetables in my house and an onion. I would go grab some soy sauce and small chicken and make stir-fry. Granted I was only feeding me as an artist on the edge but it was great. Especially with a garnish. You can do the same and make it nice for your dinner table. Kids only remember the end result, not so much the struggle unless you are complaining. I don’t know about you, but my Nana and grandmothers never complained. It was only, “come on in and eat!”

I don’t want to belittle or undermine food struggles, but I also don’t want to stoke fear and anxiety. Sometimes the solution may not be quantity but quality and true accessibility. Some of which is resolved with online shopping.

*Amazon offers discount Prime membership based on income.*

I come from people who could take whatever was left in the cupboard and turn it into a gourmet meal. At least, that’s how it was when I was growing up. These days, I notice a lot of folks let food sit in the refrigerator until it goes bad, and to me, that’s a real issue. Having abundance is a blessing, but having high‑quality food and clean water at home is even better. It supports real health, and because the quality is higher, you actually feel more satisfied.

I appreciate that we now have a new food pyramid. After decades of rising illness, it’s clear that what we were doing wasn’t working. Change was overdue. When I was younger and visited friends from wealthier families, I noticed something interesting: they rarely had a lot of food in the house. Maybe a beautifully organized snack shelf, plenty of beverages, and if I stayed over, they usually ordered takeout. Yet everyone was thin, healthy, and full of energy. Food wasn’t the center of their lives. That doesn’t dismiss food insecurity—if anything, it highlights how deeply it matters. The type of food we eat is often more important than the sheer amount. I would cry real tears for anyone who blocked another person from trying to be healthy and change their perception. Life is very precious.

A kitchen stocked with Cheetos, soda, and frozen meals might feel convenient, especially for kids coming home hungry, but true nourishment comes from proteins, vegetables, and real meals that actually fill you.

Variety is wonderful, but learning discipline in how we eat and discernment in how we shop can change everything. I’ve found that I save more money simply by buying less junk. I can still enjoy eating out once or twice a week—or even just once a month—but the biggest difference I see is in my family’s health. Their skin glows. We have our vitamins, clean water, stews, soups, meats, pasta, and salads. The meals I cook last about two days, so we don’t end up with piles of leftovers or much food waste. This is the true key to environmental activism.

What I do notice, though, is how much waste comes from crackers, chips, and snacks. Half‑eaten packages and stray cookies show up everywhere, which tells me all I need to know: these should be occasional treats, not weekly staples.

It’s important to remember that people live very different lives. Across every race and ethnicity, families fall into a wide range of income brackets, and what matters deeply to some may not matter at all to others. My hope is that everyone has access to at least a basic level of health education and support. In many places that already exists, but I’d love to see it go further—especially by empowering community leaders and local businesses who truly understand the area. They’re the ones who can help strengthen and balance the quality of life there.

When it comes to waste, buying higher‑quality items, and buying fewer things overall, can make a real difference for the environment. I learned that in an unexpected way. Two years ago, I was overwhelmed by everything happening in my life and worried I wouldn’t be able to pull off a nice Thanksgiving. Somehow, it turned into an epic $60 Italian Thanksgiving extravaganza.

This past year was completely different. Family was together, the food was plentiful, and I even had embroidered placemats and a ham. I tried to recreate the magic of the year before, but the struggle wasn’t there anymore. Isn’t that something? Maybe part of us tries to recreate that tension, that sense of overcoming. It’s worth reflecting on.

The Food Pyramid Lie: Why We Got Fat

When I think of this new pyramid, among other things, I think about all of the different circles I have moved in. One thing I know for sure is that no one wants to stay where they are. If the best option exists uptown, they want it to exist where they are as well. If all we have to access as a tool for change is information, then knowledge is wealth. Building upon that wealth is up to the execution of each individual. If you do more today with mitigating food waste, buying high quality foods, and practicing disciplined eating than you did yesterday—you are winning. Let’s take this one step at a time. Let’s plan for the year instead of six weeks.

Let’s change together.

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Raising a Little Art Lover: Ballet, Portraits, and a New Love for Beethoven

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Daily writing prompt
Name an attraction or town close to home that you still haven’t got around to visiting.

The past two months have been full of artistic adventures for our family. Two of my favorite highlights were taking my daughter to see The Nutcracker performed by the Chesapeake Ballet Company and spending a quiet afternoon wandering the National Portrait Gallery, one of my personal favorites. For MLK Day, we celebrated through movement by attending a powerful dance performance by Company Z and Baltimore Dance Tech at the Reginald F. Lewis Museum — a perfect fit for me since I’m such a fan of dance.

Azerbaijani singer Fatma Mukhtarova Photo in the Public Domain

I’ve actually never been to the Strathmore myself, but my daughter visited on a recent class field trip and came home excitedly reciting composers’ names and asking to hear more Beethoven. What I love about the Strathmore is how many enriching arts experiences it offers without requiring a big budget. It’s truly one of the cultural anchors of our region, and I’m looking forward to finally experiencing it in person soon. I’m also hoping to make my way to Afternoon Tea at the Mansion. It’s been on my list for a while. Additionally, about a month ago, I went to afternoon tea at Lady Camellia and I highly recommend it. It was pink and cute and the tea and sandwiches were delicious. It’s a wonderful way to spend a slow Saturday afternoon if you love tea. It may even be nice to make a date of both. Here are some cool things to know about Strathmore:

Always‑Free & Pay‑What‑You‑Can Options

  • Free admission to rotating visual art exhibitions inside the Mansion
  • Bloom by Strathmore events offered free or pay‑what‑you‑can (concerts, workshops, community performances)
  • Seasonal free outdoor concerts on the lawn — perfect for picnics with kids
  • Free and low‑cost youth arts programs offered throughout the county
  • Accessible events designed to bring the arts directly into neighborhoods

Upcoming shows I am looking at Katherine McPhee and David Foster. I saw bits of the show on Youtube and it looks like they are sharing a lot of the songs David Foster wrote for some of music’s biggest stars. I may catch a symphony as well and take my kids. It’s good to expose them early for their travels throughout the world.

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Healing Through Art: A Journey of Spiritual Growth

Image by the author Chiara Luz via Generative AI

Sometimes there is a heaviness that we feel in our lives. It may be there for various reasons. It can get difficult to manage in the cold months and when the weather is grey. I was talking to a family member about the healing power of art today and what makes it so powerful. Art doesn’t ask you to talk. It doesn’t judge and when you are in the process of creation—you are free.

I’ve moved into the realm of spiritual art, and as fascinating as it is, it can also feel heavy. Its purpose is healing, yet I realize now that I needed more healing myself before diving into this journey. I’m in a better place these days, more grounded, and more prepared to receive the remarkable gift of communion with the other side.

When I feature saints here on Chiara Atoyebi Media, it’s intentional. Through every challenge and hardship in my life, a saint has walked with me. Even my daughter Calais — whom I imagine praying for me day and night — brings me a deep sense of calm. I share with my readers the same things I lean on in my own life. I may not be as direct as many people, but this is my story. I mention my other site, my life’s work, and my nonprofit because they are part of that story. The House of Maryam is something I had to grow into, and I suspect I’ll always be reaching for the wisdom and compassion I hope it reflects.

In my daily life, people don’t often associate me with struggle, but I have my challenges. Parenting, especially, stretches every part of my soul — particularly when guiding children through a new family dynamic. I think I handle it well, yet when I talk about opportunity, housing, stability, education, creativity, all of it matters. This is life. We only get one, and it should be beautiful.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is that the beauty I’ve poured into others becomes medicine when I finally give it to myself. That realization felt like a holy ordinance. I never imagined I could offer that kind of love to myself or that joy could be something I truly experienced. For the first time in my life, I listen to love songs. The first was “Overjoyed” by Stevie Wonder, then “Lovely Day” by Bill Withers, and the list keeps growing. I spent a lifetime listening to breakup music. If I have any advice, it’s this: you are what you listen to. If you fill your ears with fighting and making up, you’ll live in that cycle.

In the months ahead, my goal — along with the other writers on this site — is to offer simple, useful information that helps you build a beautiful life right where you are. I believe that when we’re faithful in small things and truly grateful, we rise. I already feel lighter and more elevated simply by having this space to communicate and share with you.

This month is National Hobby Month, and it’s the perfect time to reconnect with something you love. What’s life without a little joy that belongs only to you? If you have a hobby you adore, I’d love to hear about it. I’m always open to trying something new. Who knows — I may even join you from afar

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Nice Words Have A Way Of…

I think my future will surprise me.

I woke up the other day thinking putting old school pen to paper for Brass and Bloom. Part of me is nervous at how fast the words move things into existence. But hey, why not? I forsee a fun summer.

I think it can never be understated how far kindness and kind words can go. So many people talk reckless to each other that when you recieve a kind message or word it really stands out.

Let’s practice putting kindness on those words.

I understand it can be a challenge and we will fall short–but we all need it from time to time.

How do you show up for your friends, children, and loved ones in difficult moments? I would love to learn.

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The Confluence of Art and Media: How Art Will Meet The Moment

By Chiara Luz

This site is a holistic media endeavor. Soon, it will be opened up to even more minds and opinions. That is not only how community meets the moment, but art. Art and media are two conjoined halves in my opinion. They function best when they’re interdependent. In our politically charged society we have the opportunity to mine the fields for problems and see where art can tell a different story and advance a better future.

In our politically charged society, we have the opportunity to mine the landscape for problems and explore where art can tell new stories. I taught a workshop on technology and art for the Women’s Caucus for Art a couple of years ago. I am an advocate for digital tools, artificial intelligence, and digital art and sales. I believe there are not only creative, but fiscal, opportunities available within this genre.

Traditional Art Practices


While in-person engagement with art is increasing and traditional forms remain a mainstay of the status quo, the digital world is still evolving. There is as much possibility there as the mind can imagine, and I champion it. Throughout history, art has always faced attack. Artists are close to the Creator —they bring forth the unseen. That is a great deal of power.

So will art survive the moment with integrity and dignity? Of course they will. They are the moment.


It’s also comforting to know that artists still retain control over what they make and how they choose to say it. Artists are needed. Art is the baseline of all innovation, while words shape the language around it. Together, they form the rhetorical world-building pillars of society.


If I had a question, it would be this: how will art rise to the occasion? How will it shape new narratives? Through UNESCO we can study cultural globally and how to preserve it, yet what arw futurists envisioning now? We have spent a fair amount of time uncovering problems and successfully answering some of them. How do we take it a step further while building our own magical society? That is the power of art. I will always be a believer in the small steps. The small details. The small wins.

I believe in each brick that carefullt builds out our daily dreams and lives.

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BirdSEED: Your Path to Affordable Homeownership

I want you to have your dreams. I want to show you that there are tangible ways to obtain them. When this site evolved a few years ago, the tagline was information is access. It still is. Here is another piece of the puzzle so you can rest your head in your own space. You can be proud of yourself and your children can be proud of you. You can do this!

When you’ve been researching housing initiatives for a while, you learn to spot the difference between programs that simply sound good and those that actually shift the landscape. BirdSEED is one of the rare ones that does the latter. 

This isn’t just another down‑payment assistance program. It’s a grant rooted in reparative justice—a direct acknowledgment that generations of discriminatory housing policies created real harm, and that real repair requires more than words. The call for restoration was made and a proram like BirdSEED  answered. BirdSEED steps into that gap with tangible support for families who have been historically shut out of homeownership. 

Why BirdSEED Matters 

If you’ve ever tried to buy a home, or walked alongside someone who has, you know the down payment is often the biggest barrier. BirdSEED offers grants (not loans) to help close that gap. No repayment. No hidden strings. It is support designed to help families finally step into the stability and wealth‑building that homeownership can provide. 

For many, this isn’t just financial help. It’s the difference between renting forever and building generational security. It’s the difference between being pushed out of a neighborhood and having the power to stay rooted. 

What Makes This Program Stand Out 

  • It’s grounded in justice, not charity. 
  • It acknowledges historical harm and responds with real resources. 
  • It’s accessible, with a clear mission and straightforward application process. 
  • It’s designed to repair, not just assist. 

I am a believer that a big part of the American dream is stability, and home ownership is a big part of that picture. There are stories of women becoming widows and finding out they no longer own their homes due to property taxes or title loss or through divorce. Some people simply want a better way to raise their families and to give them a small something. This is it. I have been around for a long time, and I can tell you that programs like this don’t come around often. And when they do, they deserve to be shared widely. Act now and keep your ears to the ground and your eyes open. Your justice is yours to pursue. If you don’t pay attention, I believe that some of these opportunities will be off the table. You don’t want that. You want to give your family the most invaluable thing going—stability.  

How You Can Take Action 

If you or someone you know has been dreaming of homeownership but struggling to cross that financial threshold, take a moment to explore BirdSEED. Share it with your networks. Post it in your group chats. Mention it at work. These are the kinds of resources that change lives when they reach the right people. 

Justice grows when we pass the seeds along.  I am a huge supporter of non-profits that actually do things and are committed to making a real impact.

Additionally, Investopedia summarized some benefits for new homeowners and here are some things found on the federal level that should be of interest to you. Remember, to win is to be smart, knowledgeable, and keeping it simple. Good luck. I have mentioned before that our state has quite a few programs and anything that you do not qualify today–keep trying ladies.



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How I Stay Focused on Daily Goals As A Busy Mom

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Most mornings I wake up with a plan. I tell myself that today I will stay focused, stay calm, and stay on track. Then the day actually begins. Someone needs breakfast, someone else can’t find their shoes, the laundry is giving me side‑eye, and suddenly my goals feel like a distant memory. If that sounds familiar, you’re in good company.

Over time I’ve learned that staying on target with daily goals is less about having a perfect routine and more about finding small ways to support myself through the chaos.

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I Keep My Goals Simple

I used to write long lists that looked impressive but never got done. Now I pick three things that truly matter. When I keep it simple, I actually finish what I start, and that feels so much better than staring at a list that grows faster than I can check things off.

I Break Big Tasks Into Bite‑Sized Pieces

If something feels overwhelming, I chop it into tiny steps. Instead of “clean the house,” I’ll focus on “clear the kitchen counter.” Small wins add up, and they give me the momentum I need to keep going. Another tip is to set a timer for 15 minutes and spot clean. You’ll be amazed at what you get done knowing that you only have 15 minutes to do it.

I Lean on Routines

Routines save my sanity. They take the guesswork out of the day and help me stay grounded. Even a short morning ritual helps me feel like I’m steering the ship instead of being tossed around by the waves. My latest endeavor is working out with the Daily Burn app. I scored a membership, and I am looking to break up my workouts in 20-minute intervals. I do 20 minutes in the morning and then 20-minutes in the evening. My daughter keeps me on track. She is like a mini assistant. Daily Burn is also on Amazon Prime. You guys know I love my Amazon Prime and I just got a residual payout, and I am even more encouraged to get new books on Amazon. We love Amazon. It has everything for the indie employee and future entrepreneur.

I Protect My Focus

Distractions are everywhere. If I don’t set boundaries, my attention gets pulled in a hundred directions. I’ve started using short focus sessions where I silence notifications and give myself permission to concentrate on one thing. It’s amazing how much smoother the day feels when I do this. I can get distracted pretty easily when the ideas begin to kick in, but with hardcore focus, I stay determined.

I Celebrate the Small Stuff

Moms are great at cheering for everyone else, but we forget to cheer for ourselves. I’ve started acknowledging my own progress, even if it’s tiny. A little celebration at the end of the day reminds me that I’m moving forward, even when the day felt messy. My personal mantra is to live to fight another day.

I Stay Flexible

Life with kids rarely goes according to plan. I’ve learned to adjust without beating myself up. Flexibility keeps me consistent because it lets me adapt instead of feeling like I failed. I just tell myself– you will live to fight another day. How do you stay on track?



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Why Freedom In The Arts And Artistic Expression Matters

By Chiara Luz Atoyebi

Throughout history, the arts have thrived most powerfully when artists are free to speak, challenge, and imagine without constraint. From ancient playwrights questioning authority in public forums, to Renaissance painters pushing against religious orthodoxy, to modern musicians and performers confronting social and political realities, artistic freedom has always been inseparable from cultural progress. When artists lose that freedom, society loses a vital mirror and a vital conscience. However, throughout time art has been and still is used to maintain the status quo while operating under the guise of creative expression. We may ask creative for who?


Art is not meant to be comfortable or purely transactional. It is meant to explore human complexity, to provoke empathy, and to ask difficult questions. Yet again and again, artists have found themselves navigating institutional, financial, or political pressures that threaten to silence or narrow their voices. History reminds us that when creative expression is constrained whether by censorship, rigid bureaucracy, or ideological agendas that the result is not stability, but stagnation.

The Washington National Opera

Opera, like all art forms, depends on risk: emotional, creative, and financial. When systems prioritize control or predictability over experimentation and trust in artists, the art itself suffers. The Washington National Opera’s choice to seek change and independence is not simply a logistical shift, but possibly a statement about preserving space for artistic voices to evolve on their own terms.

It’s also fair to note that sales and sponsorship had been declining for over a year. It’s hard to tell if this is a business decision or one due to creative differences–or both. For now the new location of the Washington National Opera is currently up in the air.

This moment is another chapter in a long history of art and freedom of expression. It reminds us that freedom in the arts is not guaranteed; it must be continually defended.
In protecting artistic freedom, we protect the human voice itself.