I think for the first time in my life, I don’t really plan so much. I like it that way. I’m a Franklin Covey girl, although many people think I don’t plan at all. I do. Most plans become routine when you do the same thing each day. And if you have a huge goal, it still operates in the same way until its completed
I am a type-A adjacent bohemian energy. In essence, I need some parameters to my chaos.
I like my travel plans to remain immediate and / or spontaneous. My biggest travel plan for the moment would be to get ice cream. 🍧
If you could host a dinner and anyone you invite was sure to come, who would you invite?
I like to keep it light while I’m eating. I like to mix people together from all walks of life.
Therefore, a dinner party with ideal guests are ones that can chill, and are intellectually curious, grounded, well versed in a variety of topics, and have a sense of humor. The best dinner parties are the ones you walk away saying, “that was nice.”
When I first started my writing collective a few years back, I chose the name Kambili. It means “let me live.” I felt it was perfect. I was living in a world where I was being focused on at a granular level and that’s alot. Yet, I have lived enough life to know that there are people who feel an innate need to tell others how to live despite being reproached.
For me harmony is achieved when everyone is respectfully giving their opinion and sharing feelings and ultimately minding their business and letting other people live. In 2019, I gave up gossiping. Right after that I did my best to remove the things that were erected as idols in my life. Those two actions cleared out pretty much everyone in my life. That’s sad and scary when you think about it.
To be clear, I really only had one gossip partner, but she was, and is, the queen bee of it. We all have these people in our lives. For the most part it’s innocent, but I had to permanently let it go. Gossip puts in motion unforeseen tragedies that often boomerang back in the form of karma. Most people don’t know that’s what’s happening though. When I did that, it created a peace within me that has been unwavering. I largely focus on the tasks at hand and the joy in my circle. Harmony is best when you do you and I do me, and when it feels right, we can do us. I am ok to lose out in some situations and win in others. But all people need the space to express themselves and to simply be. We are here to love and to express ourselves in the unique way that God intended and will often upset the apple cart if those ideations are obstructed. Remember, one person’s harmony is another person’s overbearing—therefore walking away or taking turns being quiet is best.
