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Forgiveness Is Immediate But Healing Takes Time So Let’s Bridge The Gap With Culture And Tradition Like Aunt Caroline

Written By: Chiara Luz Atoyebi

Aunt Caroline Dye Photo In The Public Domain

When it comes to African Americans taking control of their lives in any way that appears to reflect autonomy it becomes threatening. People coloring outside of the lines, going off of the beaten path, attempting to live outside of “groupthink” can appear suspect. However, a visionary’s job is to see what is coming and therefore it takes a few discerning individuals to be able to follow the signs of them that believe.

I have been on my spiritual path since the age of twelve. It began to shift into high gear at 13 and every five years thereafter. This last five years has been quite mind blowing in terms of intel and has caused me to finally answer the call by incorporating the wisdom of various interreligious elders with similar experiences as mine.

Pictured above is Aunt Caroline Dye. She was a 19th century healer, hoodoo woman, rental property investor, soothsayerrootworker and conjuror from Arkansas. She was more like a prophet than a fortune teller and she used playing cards to keep her concentration straight. I have mentioned before in my writings, that it was a woman like this, and La Madama, that appeared in my home with a cleaning item ( a broom) pointing to cards on a shelf for me. At the time, I denied them. I was scared. Also, I felt it went against my beliefs. But as I studied the narratives of enslaved people in Puerto Rico, the Caribbean, the Sea Islands of America, Virginia, and the Carolinas–my people–we were the medicine women. We were the people with the answers. The people you don’t touch, even to this day. The day I touched my playing cards for myself, the sky looked brighter.

Since then, I have come into a oneness of self. I didn’t need to be “taught,” everything simply came to me. That’s the spirit of my heritage I am most proud of and a large part of what continues to change my countenance. I also believe that we need to be open spiritually and grounded in morality in order to discern and perceive resources and opportunities correctly. If not, we will continue to spin the wheel as we have always done. The salt of the Earth has produced many fruits but has eaten none and it’s time that has changed.

I love to travel and live in other countries. But there is no place like home. There is no place like America. As Americans, we are in the best place for opportunity. We are in the ripest season to rewrite and reshare all of the international dishes and cuisines at the table of opportunity and narrative history. The opportunity is here and the harvest is here. But, many of us are looking at the food and we can’t eat it. We can’t pick it up. We need to be reeducated and things need to be paced out. But first we have to clear our blocks and break our binds–daily. Every single day. That is why forgiveness is instant but healing takes time.

Although this work is not easy it is not necessarily arduous and you can have a good time doing it with family, culture and traditions. Remember these quotes by Mary Church Terrell and John F. Kennedy Jr.: “Lifting As We Climb” and “One person can make a difference, everyone should try.” Yes, that’s how I see it sometimes.

The Conjure Woman, by Charles W. Chestnutt is an interesting read. One that could almost echo todays societal voices.

The ancestors don’t desire for me to be as earthy as they were, but they do want me to help people as they did. Aunt Caroline drew people from all races to her seeking her wisdom and council. Many from over 400 miles away. I already get requests. Many more formal than I did in the past, and I like to imagine Aunt Caroline and many others watching over me.

Daily writing prompt
What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

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There’s No Need To Worry, It’ll Be All Over In The Morning

Written By: Chiara Luz Atoyebi

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Daily writing prompt
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

The best advice I received came from my mother in regards to the stress and strain of being a middle schooler. When I would have really hard days trying to fit in and make new friends amidst pre-teen girls and their ever changing alliances, my mom would sigh and say, “don’t worry Chi, it’ll be all over in the morning.” Sometimes I felt like the restrictions of my household, the mood swings of my “friends” and my melodramatic love life with my late nights on the phone with the lover boys would never end, her words grounded me. I would try not to stress too much because I knew a good nap would make it all better.

Middle school was a hard time for me. I was very soulful, somewhat shy with a hippie-ish Lisa Bonet vibe that was not well received in those days. I also bounced around to a lot of different schools in those days and that didn’t help me with my fitting in goals. And although I was right there with my friends, I was often dreaming or talking about all the places I could go, and all of the places I would see–kind of like now.

Middle school is also when I got bullied. For me, 99.9% of my short-lived bullying came from someone thinking I wanted their boyfriend or I thought I was all that. Plus, coming to a suburb of Augusta, GA via Kansas and Berlin didn’t exactly make me cool. And, for a girl who claimed to “love the Lord”, I did listen to alot of Luke Skywalker. I mean, bass music was in, of course I’m going to love it. When I think about it, not too much has changed. I love hip hop and I love to dance as much as I can. But, back then and even to this day, people have a hard time connecting worlds or even acknowledging the duality of a personality. We all have this duality within us. However, I am that conundrum at times, marching to the beat of my own heart. I am ok with it, because I make great music inside my soul.

I wasn’t always so confident. Even when people thought I was. That was more than likely just the light within me emanating outward on my behalf. On the inside, I desperately wanted to fit in. When I look at my kids, they do their own thing. I give them the same advice my mother gave me and they just tend to run with it. My daughter struggles somewhat. She has a way about her that makes people want to be her friend but also push her down–it’s strange. But, what I want them to know, and anyone to know is, troubles are temporary. Your pain doesn’t last from the time you take your first breath until you take your last one. You will have lots of good moments in between. Enjoy those moments. In a heartbeat these issues that we toil over will be gone. There will be new issues and new stresses until there is nothing else to worry about at all.

So when you are having a bad day remember, just rest because it’ll be all over in the morning.

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