There’s No Need To Worry, It’ll Be All Over In The Morning

Written By: Chiara Luz Atoyebi

The best advice I received came from my mother in regards to the stress and strain of being a middle schooler. When I would have really hard days trying to fit in and make new friends amidst pre-teen girls and their ever changing alliances, my mom would sigh and say, “don’t worry Chi, it’ll be all over in the morning.” Sometimes I felt like the restrictions of my household, the mood swings of my “friends” and my melodramatic love life with my late nights on the phone with the lover boys would never end, her words grounded me. I would try not to stress too much because I knew a good nap would make it all better.

Middle school was a hard time for me. I was very soulful, somewhat shy with a hippie-ish Lisa Bonet vibe that was not well received in those days. I also bounced around to a lot of different schools in those days and that didn’t help me with my fitting in goals. And although I was right there with my friends, I was often dreaming or talking about all the places I could go, and all of the places I would see–kind of like now.

Middle school is also when I got bullied. For me, 99.9% of my short-lived bullying came from someone thinking I wanted their boyfriend or I thought I was all that. Plus, coming to a suburb of Augusta, GA via Kansas and Berlin didn’t exactly make me cool. And, for a girl who claimed to “love the Lord”, I did listen to alot of Luke Skywalker. I mean, bass music was in, of course I’m going to love it. When I think about it, not too much has changed. I love hip hop and I love to dance as much as I can. But, back then and even to this day, people have a hard time connecting worlds or even acknowledging the duality of a personality. We all have this duality within us. However, I am that conundrum at times, marching to the beat of my own heart. I am ok with it, because I make great music inside my soul.

I wasn’t always so confident. Even when people thought I was. That was more than likely just the light within me emanating outward on my behalf. On the inside, I desperately wanted to fit in. When I look at my kids, they do their own thing. I give them the same advice my mother gave me and they just tend to run with it. My daughter struggles somewhat. She has a way about her that makes people want to be her friend but also push her down–it’s strange. But, what I want them to know, and anyone to know is, troubles are temporary. Your pain doesn’t last from the time you take your first breath until you take your last one. You will have lots of good moments in between. Enjoy those moments. In a heartbeat these issues that we toil over will be gone. There will be new issues and new stresses until there is nothing else to worry about at all.

So when you are having a bad day remember, just rest because it’ll be all over in the morning.

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